She Knows the Axe is About to Fall

Let me begin by asking how much you trust and value this co-worker. What was his or her motive for telling you? Before jumping to conclusions, you need to evaluate the source of the rumor.

Regardless, though, your question is really disturbing to me because of the lack of any kind of professionalism from your boss — and your co-workers. Unfortunately, I also know that there are numerous office situations where this type of behavior — or even worse — has occurred, and there will be many more in the future. In regard to your boss, it really makes you wonder about motives…is it just to be a complete jerk or is she trying to get you to quit (which is a lot cleaner from the employer’s perspective).

What can you do about the situation? Not much, unfortunately. I recommend holding your head high, continuing to perform your job at your highest level, and taking the high road. It won’t stop the office gossip, but people will come to respect you more and question the boss more.

And most importantly, of course, you should be spending a great deal of time talking to people in your network, engaging in multiple job-search techniques, and working hard to find a healthier and happier work environment.

One last thought. You could certainly professionally confront your boss — or the supervisor of your boss — about the rumors, but given my experience in these matters, don’t expect anything from doing so, unless the rumors are completely false.